Language is powerful. Although you may not be aware of it, your choice of words shows people how you view the world.
Experts tell us that people not only use language to describe the world they see, but language and the words used actually help to create the world people experience.
How does this work?
Your subconscious mind actually tries to look at reality in a way consistent with the words you speak.
This powerful tool on the tips of our tongues not only affects us, but also affects people listening to us. So you can change the way someone else views the world by consciously choosing certain words to help their subconscious form a world view you desire.
How is this done?
Using language and words the right way, actually allows you to hypnotize someone you speak to. I don’t mean a complete hypnotic induction like you see in the movies, where someone lies on a couch. But rather, you can speak directly to their subconscious mind when you use the right words and tone of voice. This gives you the ability to influence people to view things the way you want them to.
This allows you to change how people behave by subliminally placing hypnotic suggestions during a friendly conversation.
Saying the right things
Influencing someone’s subconscious mind is actually pretty straightforward. The world famous hypnotist, Milton Erickson, developed a conversational hypnosis model with three stages:
Stage 1.
Look for signs that reveal how the person views something. Notice the language used. What words does she use to describe her feelings. After you spot the pattern, use her experiences to lead her attention to her own inner experiences.
One way to do this is to ask questions like What was that like for you? or How do you feel about that?
This focusing inward allows them to understand how seeing the world the way they do makes them feel.
Stage 2.
This second stage of the Milton conversational hypnosis model is to distract the listener’s conscious mind. This is done by using complicated and unclear language.
He would use words that sounded the same, but had different meanings, like wander/wonder, sale/sail, hear/here, right/write, You get the picture.
He would also use double binds that left the mind only a desired set of options. For instance, he would say something like, I don’t know if you will fall into a trance now, or in five minutes.
This kind of language gives the mind no choice but to fall into a trance, and it uses an embedded command to do so now, or in 5 minutes.
When words are incorrectly used, it confuses and distracts the conscious mind. This causes the conscious mind to look inward, asking for help from the subconscious mine.
These are only a couple of the many Milton Model methods for distracting the mind. I don’t know if you will want to learn more about the Milton Model now, or later 
Stage 3.
After the conscious mind has been distracted, the last stage of the Milton Model is to access the resources of the subconscious mind.
There are a few methods of doing this. The simplest is to embed commands in your sentences, so they are not apparent to the conscious brain, but will be perceived by the subconscious brain.
These are a few examples:
–I’m not sure if you will do the dishes right now –You can do it, can’t you? –You will do this, didn’t you? (I know this doesn’t make sense to your conscious brain, but it makes plenty of sense to your subconscious brain)
You may be wondering, if I just say some confusing sentences to other people and use embedded commands, can i get them to do what I want them to?
Well, my answer to that is maybe.
One thing to remember about conversational hypnosis, and hypnosis in general, is that people cannot be made to do things that violate their values or genuine beliefs.
You can definitely speak to someones subconscious mind using the Milton Model techniques, but it takes a lot more than a quick conversation to change someones values.
Practicing the Milton Model, you can become quite good at applying conversational hypnosis to make embedded commands to covertly influence those around you.